Survive Domestic Violence

Survive Domestic Violence

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is also known as domestic abuse, domestic violence abuse, spousal abuse, and family domestic violence. Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviours by one or both partners in a family, relationship, or cohabitation. The abuse can involve children and domestic violence, between two children or between adult and child(ren).

Many people wonder about domestic violence and what exactly the actions are that comprise of the abuse. The violence can come in many forms, including physical aggression, assault, intimidation, neglect, stalking, or threats.

— I am a survivor of domestic violence! —

You Will Survive Domestic Violence Too!

If you or someone you know is involved in domestic violence, there are steps to take to ensure a healthy, safe escape route. We live in a world where there are national domestic violence laws; therefore, domestic violence shelters are offered for those in need. Also, a domestic violence restraining order may be obtained, but keep in mind that some type of proof is always required.

Once a domestic abuse restraining order has been placed, the court will order a hearing. There will be a determination as to whether the alleged abuser has intentionally placed harm on the person seeking protection. The court may order a permanent restraining order on the abuser, depending on the evidence in question.

Remember to realize you are important. Don’t listen to your abuser. Oftentimes, there is a control struggle and that is why abusers intentionally belittle the abused.

Talk to someone you trust that understands your situation. This may include a close family member, a friend, or a local domestic violence support group. It makes a big difference to connect with other survivors than current sufferers. Clinical counseling is also a very helpful resource. You are not alone.

Life After Domestic Violence

What many people don’t understand is that when someone is involved in domestic violence, the human brain goes into survival mode. This means that many memories are “blocked out”. Once closure begins, this powerful wave of anger erupts, as a result of feeling scared, humiliated, and put down time and time again. After counseling, when I went to the police, that was my major turning point for my life. I realized how strong I really was becoming, after living my life behind dark walls. I was angry to later discover (by word of mouth) that my abuser believed he did nothing wrong and that he refused to get help. It continues to hurt me, emotionally, to know he thought he did nothing and continues to do nothing to get help and reach out.

If, after being removed from domestic violence, you feel angry towards your abuser for doing what he/she did to you, then this is a completely normal feeling to experience. It means that you are getting stronger!

Get your strength back and believe.

Take back what is yours- your future without violence.